The beauty of "The Sixties" movement when it came to feminism; defined itself as a movement that provided for all women and not just a chosen agenda.
Women from all walks of life and all identities were made part of the feminist movement. The reason women burned bras was not simply symbolism, but, a new sense of body image and spiritual strength.
If women are finding dating a burden, will they ever marry and/or will there ever be children with fathers included? Women have to define the virtue of dating and how that occurs. There has to be a sense of not just physical safety, but, emotional as well.
If #MeToo is taking on the challenge of defining dating, then it is part of the social paradigm shift to the basic needs of women and their world. I welcome a world for women that prevents drug aphrodisiacs administered by men and provides for an understanding that leads women into social interaction where they feel safe and welcome.
Women frequently believe they have to relinquish female values to enter a bar or social situation where men are present. Somehow, being attracted to men means giving up 'being a woman." There is a song that comes to mind; "Only the Good Die Young" by Billy Joel. I love his music, but, there is a line in that song that rings of the surrender of women; "You Catholic girls start much too late." That isn't the only one; "Sister Christian" by Night Ranger carries the same moaning by men to have sex.
So, if women that date and like to enter a bar where men are looking for women and don't feel safe and welcome, they won't participate. Men are missing out on some really great women in social situations if women don't feel safe and welcome. That is probably true of the LGBTQ community. "Being sexy" is not an automatic statement of "Let's have sex." Do people dance in clubs anymore? Well, "the dance" is more than knowing the steps, it is about making an impression and having the feeling last.
Spending large amounts of money is not going to impress if a woman can't connect. Men in the USA don't understand women. They really don't. Men believe if they are hyper-masculine that is "an automatic in" with a woman. NOT!
And, put the whips and chains away, too. That level of intimacy occurs after a couple feels comfortable with fantasy.
I welcome all women to the discussion as it occurs at #MeToo. Let's get this right this time. Men are waiting to be themselves and not a commercial version of masculinity. Times wasting.
Kindly remember, women do not have to participate socially anymore. They don't 'need a man' to survive in the world. No different than in "The Sixties" when women claimed a space to allow a change in the social paradigm; it brought men to a new freedom and definition as well.
Ladies, please proceed.
February 25, 2018
By Ray Routhier
Lauren Kennedy (click here) has come to view dating as something of a burden – something she’s not sure is worth the bother right now.
The University of Southern Maine senior is disturbed by some of the dialogue on social media about the #MeToo movement, where critics personally attack women who have gone public with accusations of assault or harassment.
“The reason I haven’t been dating lately is because of all of this,” said Kennedy, 24, of Portland, pointing to a lack of respect for women, fostered by public figures, including the president, who have been accused of harassment....
