Tuesday, September 09, 2014

Welcome to the status of women in the USA.

I've been waiting for the focus of this video to change to the status of women in the USA not simply the inaction of the NFL. 

One in four women experience domestic violence in her lifetime and one in three murders of women is committed by a domestic partner.

And that is just the beginning...(click here)

September 9, 2014
By Hank Gola, Jason Molinet

...“We have spoken (click here) to multiple sources at Revel Casino, which of course is now closed, but we’ve spoken to people who were working there at the time,” Latibeaudiere said. “And we are assured that someone from the NFL — it wasn’t Roger Goodell walking in, we know that — but there were people from the NFL who came and saw the video. So now the question becomes how much of that information got back to Roger Goodell, and did he ever see an actual copy of the video?”...


Ms. Palmer and Mr. Rice need to separate and attend support groups for at least a year before endorsing their relationship further. That is the reality of domestic violence, it doesn't stop with one night of apologies. In the video she is seen poking him outside the elevator for what he was saying and then wasn't surprised at all when he continued his assault in the elevator. The domestic violence has a history.

When women in these circumstances face the fact they could become another homicide statistic they do move away from the abusive partner, but, where do they go with their children? They frequently face poverty and homelessness in the real world. In the case of Ms. Palmer, she has options and the potential for an attorney to find support for her while this transpires and the relationship can find peace between the two.

A verbal argument between two partners sets boundaries and provides the need for respect for the 'other' in ways not realized before, but, to have an argument escalate into abuse is quite another thing. Frequently, couples can 'kiss and make up' when they realize why their argument took place and go on with a happy relationship, but, violence is very different.

Domestic violence, as seen of Ms. Palmer by Mr. Rice, usually has a long history. This couple had problems with boundaries long before they devolved to this episode in a public elevator.

When women finally come to a woman's shelter in fear of their life and/or having realized how dangerous their relationship has become they still face recidivism and the return to a relationship that needs to be given a second, third or fourth chance. Women and men need to realize when relationships reach the point where verbal, physical and sexual abuse are a regular occurrence it is time to leave the relationship for at least a year. During that time each partner becomes a stronger person and more self-sufficient or the relationship will prove to be unable to sustain without the abuse.