It brings me to my favorite pet peeve regarding some relationships. There is this 'attitude' that is accepted all too often where relationships are permitted to be sadomasochistic. S&M relationships do not have to include violent behavior, but, it can. One of the aspects of S&M relationships is humiliation. Unless that tee-shirt is a joke at a party of some kind or another; that is humiliating. I would never wear a tee-shirt stating I belonged to someone else regardless of whom that was.
I don't know what the sexual activity was like between her and her lover(s), but, if this is an indication of where she fell into relationships, I am not surprised there was rage within her that found it's way to the surface. I don't approve of S&M relationships. There are all kinds relationships that actually uphold the idea of subservience to maintain the relationship. That is simply wrong. It victimizes women. I don't care how anyone wants to uphold the 'concept.' The idea a man has complete control over a woman, her behavior and even her thoughts is abuse. It just absolutely is.
I have no doubt Ms. Arias has a borderline personality disorder. But, to realize how it may have been developed is something a psychiatrist has to address. If there was oppressive demands on her in the relationship; that will mitigate the trial's outcome. It should at any rate.
S&M is a bedroom antic. It can be fun. You know? A Dominixtrix is a venture into Halloween outfits. Basically. Dressing up as a Maid and all the cuteness that occurs in sexual behavior is healthy and fun, but, it is just that, FUN. It goes on. Meeting a husband at the door wrapped in saran wrap and all that nonsense is simply adding spice to life. But, to define a relationship with that as a basis of understanding is not at all healthy. I do not appreciate any man or woman who seeks to own another person in a relationship. There is mutual respect or there is nothing.
I have my doubts about her and her life and what brought her to this point. Unless there was some kind financial gain, an insurance policy or someone waiting in the wings for her to be free of her relationship there is enough here to cast doubt about her emotional stability.
As far as I am concerned, anytime a dysfunctional relationship results in abuse, beating or murder there is a reason for pause about the ultimate sentence. Automatically. There is that shadow of guilt by the other party that drives a person to act in ways that is outside their normal purview.
There are many women in prison for The Burning Bed. When is that going to be defined as self-defense and not murder? I have never heard of a Burning Bed manifesting in relationships where the woman was endeared in a loving way to her spouse. It is always a nightmare. I heard many stories I could write that would reveal living nightmares women live, but, in court it rarely holds up. Why? That question should be a topic of a documentary.
When a relationship is over, it is over. To have a relationship linger for purposes of financial need is dangerous. It brings me to state, every man and woman needs a way of supporting themselves outside a relationship. Education is important from the high school diploma through PhD. There is no one person that should be in relationships without a way out. Every relationship should be an open door, married or not. Dependency is for children and not adults.
I don't know what the sexual activity was like between her and her lover(s), but, if this is an indication of where she fell into relationships, I am not surprised there was rage within her that found it's way to the surface. I don't approve of S&M relationships. There are all kinds relationships that actually uphold the idea of subservience to maintain the relationship. That is simply wrong. It victimizes women. I don't care how anyone wants to uphold the 'concept.' The idea a man has complete control over a woman, her behavior and even her thoughts is abuse. It just absolutely is.
I have no doubt Ms. Arias has a borderline personality disorder. But, to realize how it may have been developed is something a psychiatrist has to address. If there was oppressive demands on her in the relationship; that will mitigate the trial's outcome. It should at any rate.
S&M is a bedroom antic. It can be fun. You know? A Dominixtrix is a venture into Halloween outfits. Basically. Dressing up as a Maid and all the cuteness that occurs in sexual behavior is healthy and fun, but, it is just that, FUN. It goes on. Meeting a husband at the door wrapped in saran wrap and all that nonsense is simply adding spice to life. But, to define a relationship with that as a basis of understanding is not at all healthy. I do not appreciate any man or woman who seeks to own another person in a relationship. There is mutual respect or there is nothing.
I have my doubts about her and her life and what brought her to this point. Unless there was some kind financial gain, an insurance policy or someone waiting in the wings for her to be free of her relationship there is enough here to cast doubt about her emotional stability.
As far as I am concerned, anytime a dysfunctional relationship results in abuse, beating or murder there is a reason for pause about the ultimate sentence. Automatically. There is that shadow of guilt by the other party that drives a person to act in ways that is outside their normal purview.
There are many women in prison for The Burning Bed. When is that going to be defined as self-defense and not murder? I have never heard of a Burning Bed manifesting in relationships where the woman was endeared in a loving way to her spouse. It is always a nightmare. I heard many stories I could write that would reveal living nightmares women live, but, in court it rarely holds up. Why? That question should be a topic of a documentary.
When a relationship is over, it is over. To have a relationship linger for purposes of financial need is dangerous. It brings me to state, every man and woman needs a way of supporting themselves outside a relationship. Education is important from the high school diploma through PhD. There is no one person that should be in relationships without a way out. Every relationship should be an open door, married or not. Dependency is for children and not adults.
The Lies:
Arias gave three conflicting stories to police, (click here) losing any perceived credibility she may have had. The prosecution made a point to attack Arias’ credibility by showing extensive portions of her interrogation videos, spanning several days during the testimony of the investigating officer Detective Esteban Flores.
- Version 1: She said she wasn’t even there.
- Version 2: She said she was at the apartment with Alexander but two masked robbers (at first two males, then later in the same interview it became one male and one female) came into the apartment, murdered Alexander, and let Arias go. She told Officer Flores she did not tell anyone because she feared for the safety of her family. Arias loosely compared it to the show The Sopranos.
- Version 3: She acted in self-defense against an abusive ex-boyfriend that became enraged when she dropped his camera and she had to protect herself by stabbing him 27 times, slitting his throat, and shooting him in the head.
