Can we 'get over' this mess? Miss California, Carrie Prejean, preached. She didn't answer the question.

The question was, "Vermont just became the fourth state to legalize same sex marriage. Do you think every state should follow suit, why or why not?"

Ms. Prejean went off on a tangent of a 'preplanned' political rant. The statement was rehersed so she would appear to be confident and savvy. She never answered the question. She did not say, "I believe the states that haven't legalized same sex marriage are within their rights in doing so. I think every state will decide for itself if their citizens want to address same sex relationships in that way. It is not up to me to judge anyone or any state as to the decision regarding the legal rights of marriage and the status of gender within those statutes."

A statement like that would have placed her 'preaching' outside the parameters of controversy. It would have more than adequately answered the question with an understanding that the USA is a democracy where people can differ in their views. It would have stated, on the basis of our democracy, it is the collective will of the citizens that are expressed in the laws.

Ms. Prejean sunk her own boat. There isn't anything else to say. She LOST the title because she never answered the question, she simply drew on rehersed answers.

I absolutely find her decision to call the question a challenge to her faith outrageous.

Any Miss America or Miss USA will be confronted by the topic and they have to be able to answer questions without victimizing the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender community.

We live in a world that is violent and bigoted. Real people die because of those wrongful priorities. For a Miss USA, who will be competing on an international stage, to openly criticize an entire global community would be reprehensible and nothing short of hate mongering, no different than Palin's campaign rantings that increased the danger to the First Family's lives.

The issue has a depth that goes beyond political volleying to win an electorate. The subject of Same Sex Marriage is being used politically as a wedge issue with all kinds of 'tactics' in the media. It is unfortunate. The subject of LOVE should not be a topic of gender bias, bigotry, racism or religious bigotry, but, due to political priorities it is today.

The entire segment on the Dr. Phil Show clearly demonstrates how very blurred the topic of LOVE has become.



No one can deny same sex couples have the same exact feelings of 'abiding love' toward each other than any heterosexual couple. There are issues of fidelity and infidelity whether a couple is heterosexual or not.

One of the most outrageous analogies I have heard about deciding this topic is comparing it to Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts. What do children have to do with adult relationships of love and responsibilties for intimacy and life long contracts of marriage and/or divorce.

The statement by a grown man that was supposed to represent a religious agenda in opposition to Same Sex Marriage absolutely astounded me. I believe the statement was, (paraphrasing) 'We differentiate genders when it comes to Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts. Men are simply different than women. Marriage is about a family and children and how can a same sex couple possibly understand the 'special' relationship a child has with two genders as they grow up?"

In regard to Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts, society recognizes the 'special' nature of gender because of a privacy issue. It has absolutely nothing to do with sequestering genders into different camps because of future 'ideas' of marriage. Comparing the 'play' girls and boys engage both within their own gender and in coed situations has absolutely nothing to do with the solemn adult vows of marriage.

As to men are different than women. Well that is fairly obvious. The sex organs and processes are different and the hormones differentiate secondary sex characteristics. EVERYTHING ELSE, as to the 'differences' between men and women are CULTURAL. Gender and sexual identity is a matter of genetics and nothing else. The statement men are different than women is a sexist statement when it is made to segregate 'gender authority' on a social level. It is simplistic statement made to victimize, ridicule and oppression and nothing else.

Marriage is NOT about children. Having sex 'can' lead to children in heterosexual relationships and it has nothing to do with being married.

The children of the USA are primarily raised in single parent families whereby ONE GENDER of parent influences the outcome to a child's life, education, moral integrity (no matter what definition that takes) and preferences. Any implication that a two gender parent 'standard' is demanded to have mentally and emotionally COMPLETE children that grow into happy, healthy adults that contribute to society in a benevolent and productive way is ludicrous.

The people of the USA need to come to terms with their own bigotry regarding the genderization of marriage and provide civil rights to all citizens.