July 4, 2015
By Eric Westervelt
..."It was May 15, 2014, (click here) and I remember the date because Jackie was out of school that day," she says. "We drove to drop her older sister off at kindergarten. And normally Jackie is quite happy and content to hang out with me and play."
Jackie was 3 then, and she was called Jack. Glancing into the backseat of her car, Mary noticed something different....
Sexual identity is huge.
Every one of these stories I read, regardless of the age of the child have one common denominator; the child is elated with big, wide smiles at the instant the parent(s) realize their current gender identity is false.
Parents play an incredibly intricate part of identity issues. Identity can be directly related to love. A child understands love as a matter of acceptance to the family. Love is also a gigantic trust relationship with a parent. So, parents have to be attentive to their children when they are significantly unhappy in an ongoing basis.
As if young parents don't have enough to deal with including their own adjustments; now, the gender identity of their children can be a call to awareness of a parent's power.
This is from Purdue University.
Researchers (click here) who have observed how children begin to understand gender agree that children begin this process at a very early age. Children seem to have an understanding of gender by about age 7, but there are several stages they go through along the way. It is important to have realistic expectations about gender related issues and to understand typical development and when to get more help.
The following outline describes how children understand gender at different ages.
7 months
Infants can begin to tell the difference between male and female voices. Infants can tell the difference between their mother’s and their father’s voices. They will often turn their heads toward mother or father when he or she is talking.
12 months
Infants begin to tell the difference between male and female faces. Infants will also spend more time looking at their mother and/or father than other less familiar people. At this age, infants will turn to a woman’s face if they hear a woman speaking. They will look at a man’s face if they hear a man talking.
2 years
Toddlers begin to use gender stereotypes in their play. Young girls begin to play with “female toys,” and young boys play with “male toys.” Parents also may treat their children differently. Many young girls are dressed in “pretty” clothing and treated very delicately. Young boys are often dressed in “cute” clothes that are easy to move around in. Boys are often encouraged to be active and strong.
2-3 years
At this age, young children are developing “gender identity.” This means that they begin to label themselves and others as male or female. They can use words to label friends, family, and themselves as a boy or a girl.
3-4 years
Children at this age begin to use “gender typing.” They like putting things in categories, and gender is one way to do that. For example, a three-year-old child may think that trucks are male toys, because boys usually play with trucks....
By Eric Westervelt
..."It was May 15, 2014, (click here) and I remember the date because Jackie was out of school that day," she says. "We drove to drop her older sister off at kindergarten. And normally Jackie is quite happy and content to hang out with me and play."
Jackie was 3 then, and she was called Jack. Glancing into the backseat of her car, Mary noticed something different....
Sexual identity is huge.
Every one of these stories I read, regardless of the age of the child have one common denominator; the child is elated with big, wide smiles at the instant the parent(s) realize their current gender identity is false.
Parents play an incredibly intricate part of identity issues. Identity can be directly related to love. A child understands love as a matter of acceptance to the family. Love is also a gigantic trust relationship with a parent. So, parents have to be attentive to their children when they are significantly unhappy in an ongoing basis.
As if young parents don't have enough to deal with including their own adjustments; now, the gender identity of their children can be a call to awareness of a parent's power.
This is from Purdue University.
Researchers (click here) who have observed how children begin to understand gender agree that children begin this process at a very early age. Children seem to have an understanding of gender by about age 7, but there are several stages they go through along the way. It is important to have realistic expectations about gender related issues and to understand typical development and when to get more help.
The following outline describes how children understand gender at different ages.
7 months
Infants can begin to tell the difference between male and female voices. Infants can tell the difference between their mother’s and their father’s voices. They will often turn their heads toward mother or father when he or she is talking.
12 months
Infants begin to tell the difference between male and female faces. Infants will also spend more time looking at their mother and/or father than other less familiar people. At this age, infants will turn to a woman’s face if they hear a woman speaking. They will look at a man’s face if they hear a man talking.
2 years
Toddlers begin to use gender stereotypes in their play. Young girls begin to play with “female toys,” and young boys play with “male toys.” Parents also may treat their children differently. Many young girls are dressed in “pretty” clothing and treated very delicately. Young boys are often dressed in “cute” clothes that are easy to move around in. Boys are often encouraged to be active and strong.
2-3 years
At this age, young children are developing “gender identity.” This means that they begin to label themselves and others as male or female. They can use words to label friends, family, and themselves as a boy or a girl.
3-4 years
Children at this age begin to use “gender typing.” They like putting things in categories, and gender is one way to do that. For example, a three-year-old child may think that trucks are male toys, because boys usually play with trucks....
