...parents should never be afraid of parenting. Never. Don't let ideas enter the scene as a corrective method to ADJUST the love of a parent for the child(ren.)
Parent your children. Love them. They thrive on love and embrace. Tactile expressions of affection are always okay. If an eight year old squirms as if to reject the expression of affection, so what. They are doing what they are suppose to do and the parent(s) are doing what parent(s) are suppose to do.
Good humor is a gift to the family.
I reject the idea of "Helicopter Parents."
Indiana University psychologist Chris Meno (click here) counsels over-parented students in much the same way she addresses addiction: "I'll make suggestions like, 'Catch yourself when you are about to call home, and ask yourself if there is any way that you could figure the problem out on your own,' or 'If you are calling four times a day, try to get it down to one.'" She said that over-involved "helicopter parenting" is taking a serious toll on the psychological well-being of college students who have not begun to negotiate a balance between asking for consultation and independent decision making. "It's amazing how non-independent students have become," Meno said.
If a parent and child are so close they have to reassert their love frequently; there is treatment for that. Seriously. Psychologists and Psychiatrists get well paid through health care insurance.
Love the family. It is a good thing. It is okay to stay together for the kids. Parents don't have to, but, any excuse for loving a child is not a bad excuse. If adults can get used to living at opposite ends of the house in old age, what is the difference?
Be happy.
Parent your children. Love them. They thrive on love and embrace. Tactile expressions of affection are always okay. If an eight year old squirms as if to reject the expression of affection, so what. They are doing what they are suppose to do and the parent(s) are doing what parent(s) are suppose to do.
Good humor is a gift to the family.
I reject the idea of "Helicopter Parents."
Indiana University psychologist Chris Meno (click here) counsels over-parented students in much the same way she addresses addiction: "I'll make suggestions like, 'Catch yourself when you are about to call home, and ask yourself if there is any way that you could figure the problem out on your own,' or 'If you are calling four times a day, try to get it down to one.'" She said that over-involved "helicopter parenting" is taking a serious toll on the psychological well-being of college students who have not begun to negotiate a balance between asking for consultation and independent decision making. "It's amazing how non-independent students have become," Meno said.
If a parent and child are so close they have to reassert their love frequently; there is treatment for that. Seriously. Psychologists and Psychiatrists get well paid through health care insurance.
Love the family. It is a good thing. It is okay to stay together for the kids. Parents don't have to, but, any excuse for loving a child is not a bad excuse. If adults can get used to living at opposite ends of the house in old age, what is the difference?
Be happy.
